Don't lead subs on to submit to you if you are just sub collecting for the heck of it, or if you have no intention of actually taking care of this person's well being.
Domming someone is a lot more than dressing in black and beating the crap out of your sub.
1) You might want to read a Dommes profile before addressing her in the room most of them specify what they'd like to be called.. t I suggest defaulting to Ms (Screen name) or Ma'am.
Many of us don't like being called Mistress by people not our collared subs.
Please remember not all 'female' sounding names are in fact females, femme'd male submissive also use female names. Take the time to get to know the Domme, chat in the room, greet people, ask questions. 3) Please, please, please IGNORE the idiots who say really rude things in the room.
If you yourself outside the chat room just re log in. Real life Dommes are much more impressed to find out that you have a brain, can hold a polite conversation, and have a few manners.
The other half of this is "Don't kiss my butt unless I TELL you to kiss it." Not everyone wants their hind parts sucked on. There are probably 10 guy subs for every female Domme.